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Posted by Qasrani (Guest) - Sunday, July 11 2004, 18:49:55 (CEST)
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What part of "the writing was bland" didn't you get exactly? I wasn't bashing the review for the saking of bashing. And it wouldn't have made a difference if it was by a man or woman. I didn't even look to see if there were bylines on those book reviews! The author could have been a man... Just because it's a feminist magazine doesn't mean that only women write for it, right? I was commenting that the writing is bland and I actually READ book reviews often. I like to read. I like reading things that interest me. I don't enjoy feminist writing. Just like I don't read about making things out of popsicle sticks or Deepak Chopra and a host of other things that I DON'T FIND INTERESTING. You want to fit me in a neat box and stick a big sticker label on me. Sorry, I'm a human being and by definition more complex than that.

I'm disappointed in the way you have carried on this entire discussion. You have jumped from x to y to z without fully addressing anything that I have said straight on. It took 3 messages of me telling you to leave your lab for you to mention that you had left and were now working in another lab... ? ...

And you are being self-righteous, but I guess that is acceptable in this forum, just like it's acceptable at AINA (although they are clearly the other end of this Assyrian spectrum).

I expected more of you, A. I am never really interested in winning people over to my side because I don't really care for people that attempt to do that to me. But that's what you have been doing this entire time. Trying to "show" me and "set me straight" while at every turn I have told you that you are entitled to your opinions and tastes in reading and topics of interest. And because I don't really care for this stuff you are "disappointed"? Please!

I don't disagree with anything that you said on principle, they were all on the mark, but what I attempted (and failed) to do was get you to step down from that self-righteousness and recognize the constructive dialogue that can take place on the ground, in real life and time. It seems that you are not at that point and have no interest in that. And so I responded, although half-heartedly, and have endured Fred's venomous comments under each answer I gave you. It's good that I'm thicker skinned than I used to be and not half as angry as when I was younger.

For all this attempt at being open-minded, I'm sad to say that you have shown yourself to be the sort of close-minded liberal (which, to me, is an oxymoron) that I come across every day. Just because you compost and think about poor people and bagged groceries when you were 15 does not give you any edge on ANYONE else anywhere. As I've already said, we all have our arsenal of experience. But what is always fascinating to me (because "nothing is new under the sun") is how people react/learn/prevail over the experience/situation that has shaped who they have become. You can always sense that a person passed through a milestone by the way the event changes them. And for each person it is something different. For a kid who is the first to get a college degree that might shape the way they are thinking while someone who comes from a family of people with degrees that experience may not bear the same significance. Are you seeing this? Do you see how different people can be shaped and contoured and blinded and opened and constricted and expanded by what life puts them through? At the end of the day, that's where the beauty lies in the infinite and yet minute differences in how we process the experience.

I just hope you open up one day (I mean really open up) and realize that a whole lot of people on this earth are out for each others well-being, regardless of their sex or race or financial abilities. Whether they read feminist rags or not and whether they compost or not.

You talk about all this stuff your family did for other families that were having financial problems. They weren't "poor," they didn't have much money: there's a difference. I am sure they were rich in many other ways and that your parents gained heaps from them... perhaps not materially, but in other ways perhaps more profound than the almighty dollar. Narrowness is something I can't stand in a human being, whatever kind of human being they may be. But unfortunately narrowness prevails on every point in the spectrum. So, if you don't mind, I'm going to step out of this conversation and this forum.

I wrote on this forum to ask Fred a question and then continued writinig to just gauge where you guys were at, hoping to meet like-minded open people, what I got was the Bizarro equivalent of AINA. Not a place where I want to be and I think I have places better worth my while than where I am called a "house nigger."

Keep growing and learning.

Poushon B'shayna,

Qasrani



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